Love Life Choices Impact Your Career Success?
You’ve undoubtedly heard the old adage, “Behind every great man stands a great woman.” Even though these modern times would revise the colloquial statement replacing “behind” with the word “beside.” It is said that comedian Jim Carey launched a revision of his own saying, “Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.” Jim is likely very correct. Other modern writers have re-immortalized the statement in memes saying, “Behind every good man stands a better woman.” And not many people would argue with me if I jokingly said, “Behind every great woman is, well, her shadow because she’s all she needs.”
Regardless, the idea here is that behind every public success there are private occurrences and extraordinary individuals who help create that success––beyond the individual who is popularly publicized. As some of you already know I recently reposted a meme on social media which read, “A MAN’S SUCCESS HAS A LOT TO DO WITH THE KIND OF WOMAN HE CHOOSES TO HAVE IN HIS LIFE.” I asked my social media friends if they believed this to be true. The responses were interestingly mixed and actually highly varied. Some even thought the meme was slightly sexist.
At the end of the day most acknowledged that there was some truth to the meme’s statement regardless of the gender references. The core wisdom seemed to be about something else. I found that ’something else’ to be kind of fascinating and kind of true.
If you’ve ever been in a terrible, toxic relationship, raise your hand. I can envision a lot of hands waving in the air right now like the crowd at a Kanye concert. Almost everyone has been in a love situation that was skidding off the road and crashing everything––especially its occupants.
However, here’s the question. During your most toxic relationship, how were you? Were you drained or were you invigorated? Were you lucid of mind or were you confused and foggy most of the time? Were you sane AF or were you crazy as hell during that time? Be honest. Were you focused and productive or were you distracted by constant drama that took you off your life game?
-- you may want to be as serious and discerning about your love choices as you are your career and business choices.
Like it or not relationships matter. Most people will have to admit while they were in those toxic relationships, those emotional and psychological toxins were also showing up in many other areas of their lives. Toxic love relationships can not only hold us back in the area of love, but can abort our success in career and other areas––simply because of the compromised mind state toxic relationships keep us in.
So, if we can readily admit that toxic relationships can deeply harm other areas of our lives, we must also admit that healthy relationships conversely bolster and enrich other areas of our lives. There is a lot to be said about the emotional and psychological stability a healthy relationship can produce in a person’s life. When a person truly feels emotionally safe, emotionally secured and deeply emotionally nurtured it frees up their energies and stabilizes their mental––helping them to put their best foot forward in other areas of life.
Emotional solvency is a core need of human beings. And though emotional solvency is an individual responsibility, good, healthy and enriching love relationships go a long way to help a person find their balance in the area. It’s just an irrefutable fact. And when we allow ourselves to be linked to a toxic person who is not taking responsibility for their emotional issues, or we refuse to take care of our own emotional neurosis, look for all of that inner quaking to start cracking the structural integrity in your career and other areas of your living.
So the meme says, “A MAN’S SUCCESS HAS A LOT TO DO WITH THE KIND OF WOMAN HE CHOOSES TO HAVE IN HIS LIFE.” I’d have to say that I can co-sign the truth in this little pearl; a person’s success, regardless of gender, can be greatly helped or harmed based on the quality of the person they choose as partner in the game of life. As elementary as that seems, we often forget the formidable truth of that.
If you consider yourself an ambitious person who is serious about career success and life success in general, you may want to be as serious and discerning about your love choices as you are your career and business choices.
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