Morning Tips: Smoothing Yourself Out At The Top of Your Day (Establishing Yourself)
Your morning routine can be highly predictive of the rest of your day. In some super magical, mystical, neuro-scientifical complex way, that I don’t care to research or explain at the moment, the note you start on carries the key and pitch of everything else about to happen in your day.
For starters, mood. If you don’t take control of your mood at the top of your day, lookout. Momentum is everything when it comes to mood. Every thunderstorm started with one single drop and every sunny day started with just one-ray peaking over the earth’s horizon. Are you shining or storming through your morning? Momentum, momentum, momentum. Did I mention “momentum” enough for you to get its importance? I’m willing to say it again, so don’t tempt me.
Your entire day blossoms from the first establishing moments of your day. You need an anchor and an anchoring process to stay rooted, sane, in control of yourself, and in control of your day. Without it, the winds of life will blow you all around the day like a kite with no string and no owner.
The mood and feelings that you are feeling right now sprang forth from one solitary moment where you mismanaged a kernel of thought or you properly managed a kernel of thought –– moments or hours ago. You are now in the momentum of previous moments managed, guided or mismanaged and left with no guidance. Again…
You’re living in the momentum of a previous moment.
Like an establishing unit of DNA determining everything about the human being who will blossom from it over a lifetime, you can take the first moments of your day and create your establishing mood, your establishing perspective, your establishing approach to the day.
Your entire day blossoms from the first establishing moments of your day. You need an anchor and an anchoring process to stay rooted, sane, in control of yourself, and in control of your day. Without it, the winds of life will blow you all around the day like a kite with no string and no owner. You’ll be owned by the wind. And that’s no fun.
If a frenzied, out-of-control, overworked oxen with a caffeine patch branded on its ass is the kind of vibe you want for the rest of the day, be my guest.
If you are like I (once-upon-a-time) was; as in one of those people who jump straight out of the bed, vertically, rushing into the problems and tasks of your day –– HALT –– and halt now. If a frenzied, out-of-control, overworked oxen with a caffeine patch branded on its ass is the kind of vibe you want for the rest of the day, be my guest. No –– actually –– be the guest of someone else. I’ve left those days behind. If that oxen with Red Bull suppositories is your life, you cannot possibly be enjoying your experience of life. You don’t have to be that person. You don’t to be a driven farm animal. You can start yourself off in the personification of the emotions, competence and confidence you most desire for the experience of your day.
But this doesn’t just happen. It must be created during the first moments of consciousness at the beginning of your day. This means before spouses, before children, before bosses, before email, before television, before social media, before the noise of life.
Frame you with your favorite prayer, your favorite meditation, a cup of silent tea in solitude, affirmations, empowering mantras, reading your life goals, reading uplifting literature, engaging healthy music, yoga, tai-chi, a sunrise jog alone.
You must solidly ESTABLISH YOURSELF FIRST in the mornings before you engage the inviting puzzles of your day. Notice how I did not say “problems” this time? That’s because your power or powerlessness flows directly out of how you FRAME the upcoming circumstances of your day. But first you must FRAME YOU.
Frame you with your favorite prayer, your favorite meditation, a cup of silent tea in solitude, affirmations, empowering mantras, reading your life goals, reading uplifting literature, engaging healthy music, yoga, tai-chi, a sunrise jog alone. All of these things help to tether you to your greater purposes, greater truths, greater knowings about you and the life you are guiding.
If you jump straight out of bed, in awakened unconsciousness, like in did in my previous incarnation, in a flurry of fists trying to knock down your day, you are sending a very powerful FRAMING message to your subconscious and the rest of the world. The FRAMING message is; the problems, tasks and confrontations of your day are BIGGER than you and you feel intimidated and inadequate to face them. So, as a result, you overcompensate. And you overcompensate from the belief you are not enough.
Inwardly, and secretly, you’ve already declared yourself defeated and “defeatable” by all things outside of you.
If you are facing your day and to-do items in a frenzied ball of nervousness masked in get-up-and-go ambitious fervor, you lost before you started. You lost because of what you are subconsciously believing about yourself. You’re lost because of what you are subconsciously believing about yourself.
Inwardly, and secretly, you’ve already declared yourself defeated and “defeatable” by all things outside of you. So you start the day in a furious dog-paddle, steadily sinking, exhausted. There is no flow because there is no faith in yourself. And calm, unspoken, lived faith is a floatation device.
Think about the things you do well and know you do well without any ounce of self-doubt about your ability to perform with excellence and get things done. You approach them with calm, faith-filled know how –– knowing that you “got this.” There is no frenzy. There is no huffing and puffing, rushing around to prove something to self or others. There is no furious dog paddling. You started from the belief that you “got this.” And that silent sincere “I got this” belief roots you and sets the tone for everything else that comes afterward. Your ride though the day will be smooth because you smoothed yourself out before you started the day.
Personal sanity is a fragile thing. We lose it often. Then recover it. Then lose it again. This fragile object is with you 24/7 like a ride-along with you as the driver of the day.
Here are some important things to understand…
Personal sanity is a fragile thing. We lose it often. Then recover it. Then lose it again. This fragile object is with you 24/7 like a ride-along with you as the driver of the day. Your personal sanity is like a fragile, single, egg –– sitting in the back seat of your car –– peacefully, or on the brink of shattering. When the nervous, frenzied, hurried driver is at the wheel of the car, bad things happen to the fragile egg. When the calm, collected, patient, measured, and most competent version of you is driving the wheel of your day, that fragile egg has a much better chance of surviving the day intact.
There’s nothing worse than a nervous wheel-jerking driver on the highway. Is there?
You truly don’t just have to be crazed nor crazy to get your day done. You can actually keep yourself whole and inwardly intact –– instead of shattered and scattered. You’re a better person to be around then. You’re a better person to be within, then. You’re a person who makes better decisions and has better ideas all day, then. Whole, and un-fractured, you’re a person who can navigate the puzzles and mazes of your day without being puzzled. Whole, and un-fractured, you’re a person with more efficiency and less emotional, physical, intellectual, relational crashes throughout your day.
When you awaken, halt. Don’t start the dumb sh*t. Don’t scramble yourself. Don’t shatter the containers of your personal sanity for others. Whole is how the world wants you. Whole is how the world needs you. Whole is how you need you.
In an often insane world, it is imperative that you enter it as a sane person who loves themselves. Start the day in key and in inner-harmony. Honor yourself so your day can honor you. How you start it, is exactly how it will be, and how it will end.
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